In a world and society where marketing strategies and spin are at the forefront of advertisements and headlines, it is easy to fall into the trap of saying whatever needs to be said to get to the end goal or give others the very best impression of us. Social media adds another dimension allowing us to present our very best likeness amongst a never ending stream of highlight reels. Honesty requires us to face reality and tell or present the truth, even when tempted to spin our image or tell a story version that is not exactly truthful or real. Facing the truth is always better than living a lie.

Honesty also requires taking care not to exaggerate in order to make a situation seem more or less favorable than reality. Purposefully omitting or stretching parts of the truth is just as dishonest as intentionally telling a lie. When uncertain on how a message will come across, solicit input from a trusted individual. A reputation can be built or destroyed by the way a message is delivered. Getting input from others can aid in developing honesty and straight talk.

We have all heard that “Honesty is the best policy,” but that is especially true when it comes to what we tell ourselves. Benjamin Franklin said “There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.” Have you noticed that it is often easy to see others’ weaknesses or faults but more difficult to see our own shortcomings? And if we do recognize areas that need improvement, are we honest in our evaluation of our attempt to grow and improve? Do we open ourselves up to input from others? It is extremely hard to know one’s self, but honestly looking inward and acknowledging our faults and weaknesses is the way to become a better person. Having an honest self-understanding is a must for managing ourselves and our emotions, identifying opportunities for development, and making the most of our strengths.

That being said, taking an honest look at one’s own shortcomings or areas for improvement should never leave one feeling like a failure. Just like honesty should not be used as an excuse to hurt someone, honesty with self and others should be enveloped in kindness.

Developing character is a lifelong process, and this month’s focus on Honesty gives us the opportunity to reflect on thinking the truth, speaking the truth, meaning the truth, acting the truth and living the truth.

Originally published in the Owasso Reporter February 2018.